self discovery & Life Coaching for your mid phase of life
For men and women experiencing the uncertainty and challenges that accompany identity evolution and aging.
Are you finding yourself at a crossroads in life unsure what direction to take next, coupled with an increasing sense of disconnection from yourself and what you truly want from life? Do you feel the pressure to maintain a healthy balance between your work load and home life an impossible task these days? When we get into this kind of mental funk it can be hard to see the wood for the trees, but knowing that you don’t want to think and feel this way any longer and recognising that you would benefit from some help to figure it all out is the first step in the right direction. Seeking out that help is the second…
the challenges it can bring
Sometimes it can be hard to articulate clearly what it is you actually want help with because its never just one thing.
You’re most likely functioning well and holding it all together.
But…
You feel a loss of identity and sense of self.
You are feeling the pressure to maintain a balance between your work load and home life but the stress of trying to hold it all together is leaving you unable to attune to your own needs.
You are trying to keep everyone happy and not loose yourself in the process.
With an increasingly crowded job market you have a loss of confidence in yourself, your abilities and what you have to offer. You are unclear who your skills will appeal to these days.
You are uncertain about where you fit into society which is affecting your motivation and sense of purpose.
You know you want to make changes within yourself and your life but you don’t know what or where to start.
You’re fed up and exhausted by the persistent battle with your mind and the conversations you have with yourself, they are affecting how you move through life and your relationship with yourself
You want to create a balance between honouring yourself and your needs and the needs of others.
You are seeking to become reacquainted with yourself beneath the conditioned patterns of behaviour that have been keeping you feeling blocked and disconnected. You want clarity in what direction you take next. You want to build confidence to finally accept yourself and live from a place of authenticity with the courage to make the necessary changes within your next phase of life.
what’s happening
being unconsciously driven through life by outdated protective patterns
Humans are habitual creatures mastering their thoughts and behaviours through repetition and practice. The problem is, what if those thoughts and behaviours are hindering your ability to truly make the most of your life?
For some people, their natural sense of self and emerging identity isn’t given the opportunity to grow and develop organically in childhood leading to an accumulation of insecurities that limit us in adulthood and cause us to have a false sense of who we are and what we are capable of.
Sometimes, the internal friction we experience as adults comes from the battle between our natural sense of self trying to come to the forefront as our protective patterns try and keep us safe in the familiar and known which can inhibit our growth into full maturity and wholeness.
By raising our awareness we are able to recognise these patterns and the limiting beliefs attached to them enabling us to take more control over how we think and behave, thus providing us with the tools to make the necessary changes we’d like to make within ourselves and our lives.
How It works
I believe the sweet spot is in creating a balance between understanding and action - understanding through deep self exploration and action through the changes you are willing to make.
My work is focused on helping you to raise your self awareness of what’s happening for you on and beneath the surface and what affect it’s having on your life, enabling you to take positive steps towards feeling better within yourself and achieving the outcomes you desire.
Each session is guided by what you want to focus on, your specific needs and desired outcomes, at a pace that is in harmony with your nervous system.
This is a process of becoming more authentically aligned to yourself and your life. Its not about forcing change or trying to “fix” yourself, its about gently understanding what’s been driving you and what you are willing to let of and move on from.
who I work with
I work with UK based men and women between the ages of 35 to 50 + offering personal 1:1 based coaching sessions via online video or telephone call.
Ignoring our emotional needs becomes harder to sustain as we age. There is an unavoidable internal shift that occurs as we enter into the middle period of our life, that causes us to evaluate ourselves and our lives.
I believe our mid phase of life is the ideal time to do ‘‘the work’’ as we ease ourselves through the transition from our youth and eventually into the full emotional maturity of adulthood, something I don’t believe we can truly obtain without going through this process.
Whilst I don’t have a strict criteria as to who I will and won’t work with, it’s more based around the compatibility we experience together that is the deciding factor if we are a suitable match or not to have a successful working relationship.
I am not from a corporate background and therefore don’t resonate with the rigidity that may be preferred by individuals used to that type of working environment.
That said, nor am I ethereal in my demeanour, preferring a more direct approach in my delivery, more for clarity of communication rather than abrasiveness. The most important aspect of the working relationship is that you feel safe enough in my presence to allow yourself to explore your vulnerabilities whilst feeling fully supported at all times - this is a non negotionable!
How we can work together
1:1 coaching
Individual Clarity Call - 90 minutes - £150
Ideal if you are looking to lighten the mental load and gain some clarity and perspective about a specific situation in your life. During the session we will explore what’s on your mind, what you need help with, and what you do next which may include creating a plan of action, or simply raising your awareness.
I also offer 6/9/12 + session packages for people that are looking to go deeper and explore multiple areas of themselves, their lives or situations that require more time and space to explore them. These can be booked at either 60 or 90 minute sessions, however the first session is always 90 minutes. There is a reduction of the session rate on a multiple session package.
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your coach
Hi,
I’m Harriet, a fully qualified personal performance coach based in the UK. I offer private online 1:1 coaching for men and women entering into a new phase of life, who feel a loss of identity and sense of self, gain some clarity and a deeper understanding of what direction they are taking next and how they are going to achieve it.
I take a holistic approach with my coaching, taking the whole person into account.
I don’t believe in following a ridged pre designed programme as everyone’s needs and desired outcomes are different but there is a structure within the fluidity of the session to enable you to gain as much benefit as possible from our time together.
This isn’t a goal driven process, it’s rooted in healing, self discovery and creating alignment to ourselves and our lives.
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